but then you end up shaking and feeling totally out of control onstage… dying to run away and hide when you're in the spotlight?

If you're a confirmed people-pleaser, watch out! That feminine conditioning to “be good” without FEELING good can really backfire and zap your confidence as a performer!

[NOTE: If you know you need help with this and you want to solve this NOW… just send me a message or comment “NOW” below so we can have a chat! I have a new program starting soon that could change everything for you.]

As a musician, you want to get along with your colleagues, impress judges and donors, please your students, make great music that brings joy to your audiences… and make your family happy while you're at it.

Of course, you also want to enjoy practicing and performing for yourself, too (I mean, we all have to practice, right?). 🎵

These are all wonderful motivators to do good work, but what a lot of desires to balance in your life!

⚠️ Warning: When keeping the other people in your life happy becomes more important than caring for and nourishing yourSelf and following your artistic dreams with JOY… then you have a real problem.

You may have been taught to be a “people-pleaser” by parents, caregivers, educators, or friends. You might think this way of living will deliver ‘good karma points’ for a happier afterlife, or that it just makes you a better person here and now. 😇

❓But is it REALLY the best course of action to put yourself last if you want to experience your dream life as a musician?

You know… the one where you enjoy great relationships AND get great gigs, work with excellent colleagues, and feel FANTASTIC every time you get onstage to share your passion with the world?? 🤨

When you consider the “airline psychology” of “put your oxygen mask on before helping your neighbor with theirs”, or the Biblical verse advising us to “first take the log out of your own eye” so you can better see how to help others, it doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to be a people-pleaser.

And yet, most of the musicians I know – and most of my clients when we first meet – ARE trying to please others before considering their own needs and well-being. And when those desires clash, it’s usually the ‘other’ that wins (but not really).

These are all smart, wonderful people – kind and considerate – but when people-pleasing becomes a default habit, and the Self is routinely ignored, neglected, invalidated, unheard, or denied, it is literally unhealthy. ☠️

❌ Not only does people-pleasing make us frustrated and gradually unhappier over time, but it can also be an important underlying cause of performance anxiety and physical pain… and it can negatively impact your artistry.

👉 Denying yourSelf prioritizes the outward over the inward. Suppressing your heart’s desires and your truest needs increases stress and muscular tension, and puts pressure on your whole system, whether you’re aware of this in the moment or not (and we’re usually not).

Over time, this internalized stress blocks creative flow, and it causes energy to stagnate. This interference with our natural energy increases pain and suffering sooner or later, it slows down the healing process, and it makes free musical expression more difficult.

This can really zap your confidence!!

Gradually, it becomes harder and scarier to open up and express who you truly are when you’re overly concerned with pleasing others and living up to external standards. 😭

And pretty soon, the norm is to shrink onstage, shake, and worry WAY too much about what your colleagues or audience are thinking about you. Performance nerves take over, and you have very little control over your experience in the moment – because you have the wrong ideas about performing and you don't have the SKILLS to prevent and heal this.

🔥 The truth is, you’ll never be able to give your TRUE BEST to anybody else (or your instrument) when you’re doing it from a place of self-denial, overriding your best instincts and inner wisdom, which always knows what’s best BOTH for you AND for others. ☯️

Thankfully, there is a FAR better and easier way to have a great life as a performer without succumbing to people-pleasing, which actually allows you to “have your cake and eat it, too”! 🍰

My Art of Freedom® Method teaches you to recognize very quickly (on Day 1, actually), how the way you’re thinking impacts your body and your emotions – for better or for worse. And you quickly come to realize how your people-pleasing tendencies are hurting you – even while you think you’re doing the right thing by putting others first.

Based on the universal principles of touch-free Primal Alexander™ Technique, my method delivers a step-by-step process that allows you to open up to a whole new way of being and making music that includes both you AND the environment, for the ultimate benefit of yourself and everyone else. Your health and your music improve as a result. 🌈

By practicing a quick and simple series of Awareness Etudes on a consistent, daily basis (just a few minutes a day!), you’ll learn how to put yourself first in a way that brings you more calm, ease, and energetic flow, and you’ll bring purpose, focus, and confidence to your practice, teaching, and performance.

Not only that, but you’ll soon discover that you’ll be able to help your students relax and learn faster, too, as they become more present and efficient in their own practice.

When you aren’t wasting energy worrying about what other people might think, and you don’t care so much whether they're going to like you or not, you will finally have time and space for your best creative – and healing – ideas to flow. And – surprise! People LOVE that!! 🥰

The powerful mind-body skills you'll learn in my introductory programs will..

✅ heal mind and body by letting go of excess tension and stress

✅ make you a better artistic collaborator because you'll be able to listen better to the deeper needs of others, and respond with more sensitivity

✅ learn how to say ‘no’ in a healthy way AND ‘yes’ in a healthy way, because you are more conscious, alert, and discerning

✅ finally feel “good enough” and empowered to go for your dreams without fear and constantly second-guessing yourself.

In my experience, open, loving, flexible, responsive, caring human beings make the best musicians and teachers.

The Art of Freedom® Method teaches you EXACTLY how to cultivate these qualities and apply them to the most general and highly specific aspects of musical technique and life as a musician.

The best part of all… it is SO easy to do, and SO quick to learn… because it’s already in you, just waiting to be liberated. 🙂

Registration for my current 5-week program Relaxed Confidence, Joy, and Authentic Self-Expression for Women in Music is open now and early registration ends this Friday!

This program includes some private coaching, a great self-study course that will give you a simple daily practice for mind-body-spirit integration, and a wonderful opportunity to attend live group sessions (or watch the recordings).

If you want all the details, reach out to me and sign up for ‘Relaxed Confidence, Flow and Joy' ASAP. This program includes 3 seminars for women, in a small, safe, intimate, and confidential setting, so space is limited and time is of the essence!

I can hardly wait to share this wonderful process with you that has helped hundreds of musicians find more ease and joy in their lives and music. This program WORKS, and the proof is that I offer a 100% money back guarantee that nobody has ever claimed.

My students typically call this work “miraculous” and “life-changing” and “the best thing I've ever done”. This is no exaggeration – just reach out for details and I'll send you the testimonials so you can see for yourself!

Looking forward to hearing from you and helping you thrive very soon in every way! ❤

Joyfully,
Jennifer ❤

p.s. Send me a message TODAY, or comment “ME” below and I'll get in touch with you. Early registration with 50% off extended through this FRIDAY; regular registration ends May 22nd, and space is limited, so don't procrastinate. 😉